I think that over time we have become allergic to people being wrong. And this causes us to react and impose correction.
In all my dealings, I have yet to find one person among many who was wrong and glad to have been corrected.
Just as we are allergic to people being wrong in what they’re saying, people are also allergic to our anxious attitude at seeking to correct others.
The best way to ever correct anyone in what they’re saying or doing is when they’re confused, have reached their limit, and are now asking for the help.
And unless they accept and welcome the correction, the effort will have been in vain.
It’s not just that people can’t stand others correcting them, but rather that they yearn to see others being wrong as well. And if they reject your correction, then it’s their suggestion to you that you’re just as wrong for having tried to help.
Many folks do not want to be helped, even when needed. It makes them look needy. And some folks do not want to seem lacking at anything.
A doctor might believe that the guy changing his tire or getting him a booster should be thankful to him for the “privilege”.
When you’re correcting, it shouldn’t seem like you’re bashing down the other person. Instead, it should seem like you’re trying to share your level of understanding with that person in an effort of bringing this individual to seeing what you are seeing. What you are seeing may not be all that there is. Hence, a healthy dialogue should then originate.
Is that person interested in being helped? Is that person crying for help? Yes, there may be many ways of doing the same thing. But does it have to be your way, and not his way?
There’s only one way to salvation, Christ Jesus. And many ways to seek to attain everything else in this world. Love eases the journey on the road of our cultural differences.
“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” (Philippians 2:1-4)
I hope this serves you great encouragement. It does to me. I need it just as much as you do. By my human nature, I’m allergic to others being wrong in what they’re saying or doing. But my divine nature through the love of Christ, I can bear and relate to the weaknesses of others as I am reminded of my own weaknesses.
In Christ, rejoice.