Church,
Verbal abuse is anything said to the detriment of another’s character regardless if the victim is present or not. Verbal abuse is also detrimental to the perpetrator given he’s foregoing his privilege to heal by hurting another’s character.
This is said simply for the sake of awareness.
Verbal abuse has potential to cause clinical depression. Words may not break bones but have potentials to break someone’ spirit and cause stress-induced illnesses.
Gossiping may seem fun until one happens to know that he was the subject of such gossip.
Gossiping also makes way for hypocrisy, giving others a false sense of sincerity.
When it comes to people, we are always the worst expert because unless we’re a fan of others, our only considerations usually lean toward what doesn’t please us. And if we’re a fan, then we find ourselves more tolerant, if not dismissive of their shortfalls.
Verbal abuse can be prevented if only we’re aware that our culture is largely dismissive of its impact on one’s health.
Have you ever come close to say something or respond in a certain manner to someone and thank God that you hadn’t because you would have sounded so off-track no knowing or hearing clearly what the person was trying to say?
Verbal abuse can also be seen as the result of someone’s reluctance to doing their due diligence before drawing any fair and appreciative conclusion.
Worst of all, but yet very too common, perpetrators of verbal abuse tend to use the Bible as foundations for their abuse, trying to convey to the victims that whatever they’re blurting to the victim is God’s judgment upon them.
Verbal abuse is the attempt of may holding someone’s sin against them.
Yet the gospel informs us that:
“God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.” (2 Corinthians 5:19)
So the message of the gospel is reconciliation, and not condemnation by any forms of abuse be it emotional, verbal, mental, physical or verbal.
So the next time you find yourself invited to verbally abused someone’s character, acknowledge it and understand the need to do something more constructive and appreciative in regard’s to such person’s character. It can something as simple as remembering that they too are loved by God in Christ. Reconcile yourself to the love God has for you, which is the same love that God has for them.
Acknowledge our reconciliation to the knowledge of God’s love for all of us, the love of God being poured into us.
By grace, we acknowledge our own reconciliation to put at bay any anxiety to “fix” others by any of our means including our opinions.